Not all things are good for you

not all things are good for you

After learning things the hard way I wanted to share with why I honestly believe that not all things are good for you.

Nearing the end of 2013, I was introduced to Statigram. Every time I logged onto my instagram account I would get to watch a mini slide reel of someones 2013 instagram highlights. I thought this was fun and wanted to see what my highlight reel would show. So I naively started a statigram account and was instantly hit with statistics I was not prepared to see.

You can view all sorts of statistics with statigram:
how many photos you shared
how many likes you received
how many comments total you have been given

those stats seemed harmless enough. At least for me, I know we all have different struggles and for me those numbers did not effect me. It when I clicked a few menu options down my heart began being attacked.

statigram stats

You see that red circle area. That friends made me sad. Not that people unfollowed me, I do that to people too. It was who unfollowed me. I know that people have their reasons and in the grand scheme of things should it matter, no. If we can be friends BEFORE instagram I am pretty sure we do not need instagram to continue to be friends. Regardless of what I know to be true, my sinful human heart was hurt. At first I felt the need to reach out to certain unfollowers to ask why; did I say something, comment rudely or not like your pictures enough? Again my sinful human nature needed answers, needed these friend to justify leaving me. And honestly I was comforted by a few responses, some said they were struggling with certain things in their lives and some of my pictures made those hurts worse. I get that, others though either did not respond or assured me it was an accident.

then the knife went in a little deeper…

statigram unfollows

This little section circled in red shows who you follow, who follows you back and who follows you that YOU don’t follow back. Again I was already hurting and I wanted to see who I followed that DID NOT follow me back. Stupid and not needed, I know. But it was there staring me in the face, the people I was in constant communication with, people I thought were my friends (online and in local community), not following me back. That’s when I began to feel insecure, like I was not good enough to be their friend online. that my instagram was not worthy of being in their daily feed.

Friends, this was ugly, this was wrong, and this was not the truth.

I needed to take this to the Lord because it was my sin issue not something they were doing wrong. I was the one finding my identity in their relationships and not in Christ.

Ephesians 2:10
For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

I am urging you if you have not already, STAY away from statigram, and sites like it. I think it causes us to lose focus. Why are we sharing what we do?, who are we sharing it for? what’s our end goal? I have spent a lot of time praying through this and the Lord has used some very wise women in my life to help speak truth to me. I know that what I write, share, like, and follow ultimately is done to Glorify God. And if I find myself comparing and judging, then I know I need to let it go. That although I may unfollow someone it is not because of them personally, it’s because of me and sinful nature.
steve furtlick quote

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  1. That is a shame. I am glad you shared this!
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  2. That would drive me cuckoo! I really hate all statistics..they bum me out and make blogging not as fun. I am am so behind on my social media that I know there are so many that have followed me and I have not followed them back. On Instagram…if I do not recognize the name or the profile pic is weird I do not follow. So much to think about!
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  3. Great post Chrissy! Thank you for being so open. 🙂
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  4. I just love you <3
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  5. Yes! This is why I stay away from all those ‘find out who unfollowed you’ apps. Not good at all!
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  6. Social media and I have a love/hate relationship going on. Love your heart! And willingness to share. Xo
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